My Top 3 Tips to follow when you are telling your new partner you have Crohn's.
When you have Crohn’s disease, one big challenge of dating and starting a new relationship is deciding on when and how to tell this new love interest about your condition. It may feel uncomfortable [and that is not the discomfort you may be feeling from your symptoms], but talking about your symptoms with your new partner will help them understand your disease and the problems you experience as a result of having Crohn's Disease.
Now only you can pick the right time to talk about it and the place for the conversation about your disease is also your choice but once you have done it you then clear the way for a healthy and happy relationship to develop.
My 3 Top Tips.
1. Tell them early in the relationship - This has two benefits. It stops you stressing about telling them [and as we all know stress is not a friend of Crohn's Disease] and it also opens up the honesty channels. They may be wondering why you have to visit the bathroom regularly or why you seem tired or in pain sometimes. Once you have told them it won't seem like such a big deal. Also make your openness about your disease a chance to get closer to your new partner. You want to find a partner who will understand what you are going through and help you get through it and come out the other side a healthier and happier you.
2. Keep it simple - I love the KIS Principle in all areas of my life and I think this is a classic time to follow it. They don't need to know the ins and outs, just the basic facts. If the relationship becomes a more permanent one then they will learn all the other things on a need to know basis. Sometimes I felt I even didn't need to know certain things about my disease.
3. Give them more information if they want it - If they have questions then you can answer them or point them in the right direction so they can find out the answers for themselves. Make sure you are always honest in what you tell someone. Education is powerful and knowing more can make it seem like it is not such a big deal.
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